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Sandfort T.
Sex in Paedophile Relationships.
Nijmegen: Paper presented at the Symp. on "Child, Adult and
Sexuality (1981)
In Article <232320Z12051995@anon.penet.fi>
an216125@anon.penet.fi writes:
More quotes from boys on how they view their relationships with men.
Social Psychologist Theo Sandfort interviewed 25 boys aged 10-16 who had
consensual sexual relationships with older men.
(quoting from the book)
3.5.4
How the younger partner experienced the older partner's behavior.
With regard to the sexual contact with the older partner, the
following instruction was given (after much discussion of other matters):
"You should now think about your sexual contact with ****, and how he
goes about it with you. I am going to ask you how he does certain things
at certain times (using a 14 item list). For example, when you have
sexual contacts with ****, how often does he consult you about it?" (p.20)
Table 5
Totals and average values of the scores given by 25 boys for the various
forms of behavior exhibited by the older partners with regard to them in
the sexual contacts.
Form of behavior Total Average
Paying attention to 116 4.64
Making allowance for 111 4.44
Collaborating with 107 4.28
Giving a chance to 96 3.84
Helping 88 3.52
Consulting 71 2.84
Encouraging 56 2.24
Leave in the lurch 4 0.16
Coercing 3 0.12
Making fun of 2 0.08
Domineering 2 0.08
Deceiving 0 0.00
Scaring 0 0.00
Misleading 0 0.00
3.5.3
How the younger partner experienced his behaviour with respect to the
older partner
In response to the question as to how often he consulted with his partner
when they had sexual contact, Peter (14.6) said, "Almost never, I just go
ahead and do it." As for playing the boss, "Never. I never play the
boss. We're both the boss, each boss of what's in his own pants."
Ben (10.9) said he sometimes encouraged Herman (55.3) when they had sex
together. As for what he then did:
Ben: What? When he wants to come: "Come! Come!" (A burst of laughter)
Researcher: Do you have to laugh then, or is it serious, too?
Ben: Yes, I always laugh, then. (Laughs again)
Researcher: But do you mean it seriously, too, so that you cheer him on?
Ben: Yeah, I laugh my head off.
Researcher You laugh your head off? Why do you find it so funny?
Ben: (still laughing) Pssst! Up to the ceiling!
Researcher: Do you think it's also a little crazy?
Ben: No, not at all.
Researcher: You don't think its crazy?
Ben: Later on I'll be able to do it, too.
Researcher: Do you think it's too bad you can't do it yet?
Ben: Yes, but when I'm eleven or twelve I will.
Kees (15.8) said he "hardly ever" coerced Max (57.11) when they had sex
together. It happened just once.
Kees: Yes, so every now and then when I find something is nicer,
well, then I tell him about it.
Researcher: But that isn't coercion.
Kees: That's still not coercion, but then sometimes I keep on
asking so much if we are going to do it that I suppose it
comes to the same thing.
Researcher: You ask it in a kind of coercive way?
Kees: Yes.