"If you want to do boys some good, you should love and not frustrate them. I'd even go so far to say that you must give them physical love if they desire it, even you yourself don't want it so much at the time, if you simply have to force yourself to do it. If you overwhelm them, comply with their most secret desires, especially in areas where they feel a lot of shame because of their bourgeois upbringing, you will be the perfect intermediary; from you they will take instruction and advice they would never take from an employer, or a teacher, or especially from their parents." (pp.41-42, cited by Brongersma 1990, p. 259)