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Stephen

One of my own subjects, Stephen, told me at age 15 "I got my first information about sex from school friends when I was 9 or 10. At 11 my brother Edwin an I - he's two years older then me - joined in a nudist group for young people. I think nudism is a good thing. When we went camping over the holidays, and laso at the leader's home, we were often naked. I think it's nice - and natural, more natural than running around all the time in clothes on. I like to look at myself nude in the mirror. Whe I was 12 I discovered how to jerk off, and a little while later, one night in bed, I got an emission. Now I do it whenever I feel the urge - on average about twice a day. Mostly I just do it, without imagining anything, but sometimes I fantasise about a male friend. In the daytime I often get spontaneous hard-on. Even with jerking off twice a day, ever since I was 13 I've sometimes got wet dreams, but not really very often. I don't remember what my wet dreams have been about. My friends have let me see sex pictures, and later movies, too, with nice boys and girls. They make me real horny.

In our nudist group I became a very close friend with an 11-year-old boy, Nick, and we used to jerk each other off. This also happened with our leader, Kenneth. We kept all this secret from my brother because we were afraid he might tell our parents. We tried out all kinds of things: Nick and Kenneth sucked me off, and I sucked them off, too. One night when I was staying over with Kenneth he fucked me. Even though he had a really huge cock it hardly hurt at all. And that very first time I liked it, and I still think it's really nice when somebody does it to me.

Further developments came when I was thirteen. Just before my fourteenth birthday I had intercourse for the first time with a girl my own age. I've kept on doing it since then, but not regularly. I always use a condom when I fuck - I'm naked everywhere else, of course. It was only later, when I was fourteen, that I looked at her sexual organs closely, fingered and licked them, while she jerked me off and sucked my cock.

Kenneth took me on trips to foreign countries where he visited other boy-lovers. And that's how I had sex with a French, a German and a Dutch boy - with Kenneth and our host looking on. With Nick and the German boy we often had group sex. Last year I saw Nick fucking a 13-year-old girl - a wonderful sight! If I was absolutely free to choose a partner now, I'd choose a girl about 16 or a boy slightly younger - it's hard to decide which would be the nicest, but probably the boy. Actually, everything I've done in sex has been absolutely delicious. Sucking and slipping your cock into somebody else are the finest things in the whole world. Looking back, I don't regret any of these experiences. Only may be the first time I fucked a girl it excited me tremendously, but nonehteless it was dangerous and stupid.

Sexual intercourse makes you feel healthy. You can learn that way everything about sex so much better, and I think that helps you later on, when you are a husband and a father. That's why boys should have a lot more freedom to enjoy sex than they mostly do now. Everything should be explained to them when they are still young, just as soon as possible; then at around 11 or 12 years - even sooner if he wants - a boy should start to have intercourse with others. If I had a son of that age and I found he's had sex with a girl I'd have a long talk with him to set him straight on all of this. I'd certainly not be shocked. It's a completely natural thing to do - I did it myself! I'd be a little surprised if he had sex with an adult woman. If he had sex with another boy I'd think it was completely normal. You don't have to talk about it. And also with a man I'd think it was okay, if the man really and honestly liked him. The first real essential meaning of sex to me it's expression of love. In the second place, it's fun.

[...] at the time he was 20 he already held down a responsible and well-paid position, which allowed him to marry. Before taking this step, however, he told his future wife the complete story of his former sex life. She told Kenneth, "I think you trained Stephen wonderfully - you made him the perfect lover!"

Brongerma 1990, p.322-323