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The Experience of Conny

Conny, a 13-year-old Dutch boy, was made to confess to a police officer what he and his adult lover Jan had done together after an 8-hour interrogation in a room behind bars. The policeman had finally declared that if Conny persisted in denying everything Jan would have to be released for lack of evidence. But he also told Conny that the boy's father was waiting outside the police station and had sworn to kill Jan when he came out. So Jan would be dead and Conny's father sent to prison for 15 years as a murderer, all because Conny persisted in telling lies. The boy broke down, told all, and afterwards was so disturbed that he seemed to need psychiatric care.

His sanity was saved when he obtained permission from his parents to send a letter to Jan in prison begging his friend's forgiveness for "betraying" him, and by the resumption of their friendship after Jan had served his eight months prison sentence. I talked with Conny seven years after these events, and their only lasting influence on him was a violent hatred of the police.

(Brongersma 1990, p.118)